During my first week of retirement, I knew I had to clean out my clothes closet. I know it sounds a bit cliché, but trust me, it was necessary. I braced myself, standing in the midst of the four walls. Facing me was a row of 21 suits hanging at eye level. Below, on another row, 40 starched dress shirts. After 38 years as a banking professional, wearing the required uniform of a suit and tie each day, I was now free from that obligation.
Unless you wear a suit, you don’t realize all the subtle shades of blue, gray, and black with the accompanying pinstripes, chalk stripes, and muted glen plaids. I had them all. And the shirts— white cotton pin-point button-down oxford was the shirt of choice. Early in my career, a white shirt was the only acceptable shirt to wear. However, as the millennials entered the work force, colored shirts, even with some stripes, became fashionable. Again, I had them all.
The morning ritual was to pick the suit on the right-hand side of the row and a matching shirt below. The evening ritual was to place the suit worn that day back into the closet on the left-hand side with the shirt thrown into the laundry bag. The following morning, it was back to the right-hand side, which was repeated daily. This was my way of keeping order, and all suits and shirts were worn equally. Also, I didn’t have to think.
With my head full of thoughts in the morning about upcoming meetings with clients and the pressures of being a corporate lender, I really did not have time to ponder what to wear. It was my way of balancing my wardrobe — just like balancing the debits and credits I reviewed daily. And, it provided some order, not knowing if my day would be orderly or not.
So the exhilaration of purging my closet was obvious. I no longer had to retain the semblance of order in my closet. I quickly chose 12 suits that would be sent to the cleaners before donating to the community thrift shop for resale at a price of $20 each. It didn’t matter that the original cost of those new suits was in the thousands of dollars. I was lightening the weight, literally, in my closet, along with my spirit. The same for the shirts. At least another dozen or so were quickly picked to donate.
My closet now had room to breathe again and perhaps become refilled with flannel and casual shirts, bulky sweaters, khakis, and shorts. Filling buoyed by releasing so many items, I continued to purge other clothes as well. The bags and bags of donated clothes were quickly piling waist high outside my closet door. I then came to my tie rack.
Ties, admittedly, are my obsession. I’d buy them by the handful. It was the one component of my wardrobe that expressed my creativity. It allowed me to demonstrate my mood, my feelings, and mindset by wearing a certain crimson red, gold solid, or diagonally striped tie. The tie rack was bulging with many draped over one another. I pulled them out and threw them on the bed. I then remembered the boxes of old ties on the closet floor.
When moving to our current house, after living in our former home for 23 years, I was packing up my closet to move everything. I ran across some old ties that were slung over wooden hangers and tossed in the back of the closet. I never liked to throw ties away – I simply stashed them into the dark corners. So, facing the movers’ arrival the next morning, I quickly took all my ties and dumped them in several boxes. I taped them shut and allowed them to be moved to our new residence. Now upon retrieving those boxes, I opened and tossed the contents of those boxes on the bed as well. I started to count them. I lost the accuracy of the count somewhere around 350. Ties from the 70s through present day were now piled high.
The first thing that struck me was color, variety, and patterns. What a diversity of silk along with other fashionable materials through the decades. At the same time, my life flashed in front of me. My burnt orange wool tie from my bank interview in the late 70s, the maroon and black silk tie worn for my promotion picture to Executive Vice President. The smooth silk solid silver tie worn for my daughter’s wedding and, yet another silk silver tie with a diagonal texture of silver worn for my other daughter’s wedding. Also, the tie worn on my last day of work. The champagne stain, a result of opening several bottles at my party, was only slightly evident among the yellow, black and tan paisley pattern.
I realized my life was connected to all these pieces of material. My creative juices began to flow. I could not release these ties to a thrift shop for someone else to purchase and wear. These items were too personal.
Being released from occupational conservative order and balance, I now wanted to express my newfound creativity. I decided to someday cut all those ties into small pieces and create two quilts, the pieces all randomly sewn together. Color would be splashed everywhere. Design patterns would clash. The two would be similar but unique. Someday I will give the quilts to my two daughters, passing along to them my life. How they choose to use the quilts will be up to them. If they want to stash them on the shelf in the hall closet, that will be fine. If they want to pass them along to their children, or use them as a picnic blanket, it will make no difference. If they wrap themselves in their quilt after my death giving them comfort, then the work in creating them will be worth it.
Yes, creativity is not work— it is love.